Life is like riding a bicycle,
This quote above is one of my favourite quotes of all times.
I consider Balance to be one of the most significant qualities to living a great life.
I like to view balance as the walk on a tight rope.
The idea is we decide on the direction we want to go while aiming to hold steady as we move along, in light of all variable factors.
So, we have the bicycle (our Life). To find and maintain our balance (mental and emotional stability) we need to keep moving (choices, decisions, actions).
We all want life to be fun, exciting, energetic, alive etc... and like the bicycle, we can only experience the thrills while riding.
First, we learn to ride, then we practice by riding and the fun comes along the way.
Staying in motion is where most of us become faint hearted, doubt ourselves, do the bare minimum and in essence not enjoy the ride at all.
How do we stay on the move?
1) Decide to go somewhere. ANYWHERE!
We get focus (or distraction from the action of riding), determination and stamina from having a place we want to go.
Does it then matter where we choose to go? France, the park around the corner, lose a stone, learn a language or an instrument?
Take a pick, any will do.
Every destination (decision) is as good as any other. Deciding to make a cup of tea is as valid as deciding to go to work.
Following through with each decision is key.
Alternatively we could ride around for the sake of it, but this gets tiring and boredom will ultimately increase the desire to get “off” the bicycle.
2) Determine what the cycling actions are and do them, continously not necessarily consistently at first. We find balance by repeating the actions/steps that keep us on track with our desired destination. It is important to understand that there are times that it is ok to allow the bicycle to glide along while we put in little or no effort, just guiding and staying on track.
3) Remember to have a laugh along the way. Thinking and talking about where you are going helps keep the dream alive and maintains focus. It's a good idea to daily remind yourself of where you are going to help you make decisions today, this moment that keep you on course.
4) When we make a decision, making it important is vital to success. We cannot decide on a thing and allow everything else to take priority over what we have decided we want. Sometimes for us to move our decisions up our to do list we need to take a look at how we rate ourselves in our own life. How do you rate yourself in your life? Are you at the bottom of your list? There is no way you will priotize that decision you have taken to move your life in the direction you want it to go. You need to priotize you.
Finally, no matter how small the step, choose to keep moving!
Hope you find inspiration here at easy2bme to stay on the move and maintain Balance.
Share any thoughts or challenges experienced while on the move.
Living life in quiet desperation, doing the 'right' things yet feeling anxious and empty! This is no strange experience to me or to many reading this article.
I personally do not think that the feelings are the problem. What we do or not do with them, that's what makes the difference.
I like to think that feeling empty is like exhausting the resources we have in our current state of existence and expansion is required. Period.
Imagine being born as a chick nurtured in a shell, the time will come when you MUST shed the shell or risk death. Hmmnn.....
There is so much anxiety in 'shell breaking' that many literally get trapped in a very uncomfortable place were the shell no longer fits but the terror of breaking out is crippling.
Sometimes, I experience this internal tug to expand but when I look at my environment it feels like any changes I want to make will be impossible. So, I feel I want to change but I also want to remain the same as well. Guess what, I go nowhere. I just increase my anxiety and find creative ways to mask it.
Years ago, I thought I was just quiet, relatively shy maybe even timid but I was ridden with anxiety, uncertain and very afraid. Yet, I hungered for passion in my life, I wanted to light up, to feel life flowing through me. To Be Alive!
But how? How does one light up? This is where I think a lot of us get stuck, not knowing where to go or what to do with all these feelings.
I have heard heroic stories of people finding their passion after some kind of affliction such as an accident or severe ill health. I wondered what it was about these life challenges that caused people to find themselves, to know for themselves, what truly matters.
Then I thought, maybe if I had some kind of severe difficulty or was deprived significantly in some way, then my passion will be 'forced' out and I would do something great with my life . Well nothing of the sort happened. Apart from my reading glasses I have no cause for complaints. Husband, kids, job, a home, I should be grateful! Happy! Right?
Wrong! My experience of life did not feel good at all. I felt trapped and overwhelmed.
So, with no major life-changing accidents, I started my journey in search of what really matters. Actually, I continued my journey because I had always being on this search. Challenging my family's religious beliefs in my teens, reading and listening to people I "shouldn't" be listening to, exploring information that resonated with me from all areas of life, religion, spirituality, coaching, self development, business, entrepreneurs, anyone and anything I admired.
They all said the same thing, LOOK INSIDE! THAT I ALREADY KNEW!
Hmmnn.... Now, how do I look inside?
My journey led me to psychotherapy which resonated with me. What I experienced in my training was professional explanation of what I felt I always knew, it made sense to me. I allowed myself relax more and continued my journey inward. Along the way I helped people find the courage to continue their own journey from their 'empty existence'.
I believe when people talk about the 'real' stuff (which is different for everybody) they get clearer about who they are, what they want and how best to get it.
I also realize that we all KNOW who we are and what we want, it is our default. Like the apple tree knowing for sure that it would produce apples, there's no doubt or anxiety in that.
Shells must break for us to expand whether we want it to or not.
The trouble is, we are continuously creating new shells hoping that somehow the new one would finally be permanent. It never is!
And this is where easy2bme comes in.
I can share with you from my own experience what works for me.
From experience, I know that soothing the feelings of anxiety that beset people significantly helps them feel better.
So, I soothe people unto their journey when they feel stuck. I also soothe those who are on their journey and experiencing significant emotional challenges.
I offer simple ideas and show tiny steps that can create significant changes. I also engage in meaningful interactions that validate you.
I know it takes courage to be me, to step out. I know this is the same with you, great courage.
The World awaits us! It needs you and it needs me.
Let's make the journey one small step at a time, moment by moment.
My writings are largely from my own experiences, my views and my insights on my own life.
I do not by any means think that I have any answers for your life but I believe I have learned a few things that you may find helpful.
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