Living life in quiet desperation, doing the 'right' things yet feeling anxious and empty! This is no strange experience to me or to many reading this article.
I personally do not think that the feelings are the problem. What we do or not do with them, that's what makes the difference.
I like to think that feeling empty is like exhausting the resources we have in our current state of existence and expansion is required. Period.
Imagine being born as a chick nurtured in a shell, the time will come when you MUST shed the shell or risk death. Hmmnn.....
There is so much anxiety in 'shell breaking' that many literally get trapped in a very uncomfortable place were the shell no longer fits but the terror of breaking out is crippling.
Sometimes, I experience this internal tug to expand but when I look at my environment it feels like any changes I want to make will be impossible. So, I feel I want to change but I also want to remain the same as well. Guess what, I go nowhere. I just increase my anxiety and find creative ways to mask it.
Years ago, I thought I was just quiet, relatively shy maybe even timid but I was ridden with anxiety, uncertain and very afraid. Yet, I hungered for passion in my life, I wanted to light up, to feel life flowing through me. To Be Alive!
But how? How does one light up? This is where I think a lot of us get stuck, not knowing where to go or what to do with all these feelings.
I have heard heroic stories of people finding their passion after some kind of affliction such as an accident or severe ill health. I wondered what it was about these life challenges that caused people to find themselves, to know for themselves, what truly matters.
Then I thought, maybe if I had some kind of severe difficulty or was deprived significantly in some way, then my passion will be 'forced' out and I would do something great with my life . Well nothing of the sort happened. Apart from my reading glasses I have no cause for complaints. Husband, kids, job, a home, I should be grateful! Happy! Right?
Wrong! My experience of life did not feel good at all. I felt trapped and overwhelmed.
So, with no major life-changing accidents, I started my journey in search of what really matters. Actually, I continued my journey because I had always being on this search. Challenging my family's religious beliefs in my teens, reading and listening to people I "shouldn't" be listening to, exploring information that resonated with me from all areas of life, religion, spirituality, coaching, self development, business, entrepreneurs, anyone and anything I admired.
They all said the same thing, LOOK INSIDE! THAT I ALREADY KNEW!
Hmmnn.... Now, how do I look inside?
My journey led me to psychotherapy which resonated with me. What I experienced in my training was professional explanation of what I felt I always knew, it made sense to me. I allowed myself relax more and continued my journey inward. Along the way I helped people find the courage to continue their own journey from their 'empty existence'.
I believe when people talk about the 'real' stuff (which is different for everybody) they get clearer about who they are, what they want and how best to get it.
I also realize that we all KNOW who we are and what we want, it is our default. Like the apple tree knowing for sure that it would produce apples, there's no doubt or anxiety in that.
Shells must break for us to expand whether we want it to or not.
The trouble is, we are continuously creating new shells hoping that somehow the new one would finally be permanent. It never is!
And this is where easy2bme comes in.
I can share with you from my own experience what works for me.
From experience, I know that soothing the feelings of anxiety that beset people significantly helps them feel better.
So, I soothe people unto their journey when they feel stuck. I also soothe those who are on their journey and experiencing significant emotional challenges.
I offer simple ideas and show tiny steps that can create significant changes. I also engage in meaningful interactions that validate you.
I know it takes courage to be me, to step out. I know this is the same with you, great courage.
The World awaits us! It needs you and it needs me.
Let's make the journey one small step at a time, moment by moment.
My writings are largely from my own experiences, my views and my insights on my own life.
I do not by any means think that I have any answers for your life but I believe I have learned a few things that you may find helpful.
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